A research-based system for being the best husband and father you can be. A manual to understand the science. An app to put it into practice. Every day.
Get the systemThe baby came. The connection thinned. Sex is less frequent. She seems tired and distant. You want to do better but you don't know how — and you're not going to therapy.
You come home and she's already exhausted. You don't know what to say.
You've become co-parents who share a bed, not lovers who have a child.
You can feel her self-esteem dropping and you don't know how to help.
Every relationship app requires both of you to participate. She doesn't need more homework. You do.
Built from the research of the world's leading relationship scientists. Gottman, Perel, Nagoski, Tatkin, Brown. Distilled into two things: a manual to understand the principles, and an app to practice them daily.
40-page e-book covering the emotional bank account, bids for connection, the four horsemen, desire and eroticism, female desire, attachment, self-esteem, conflict repair, and fatherhood. Research-backed. No fluff. Written for men who think in systems.
8 research-backed daily actions. Each one is a deposit into the emotional bank account — and a brake-lifter for desire. Tips explain the science behind every item.
An original weekly self-assessment: Safe, Enough, Expert, Noticed. Four pillars of self-esteem you can actually track and improve. Based on Brené Brown's research.
Based on Emily Nagoski's accelerator/brake model. Check what's pressing on the brakes before you initiate. Understand responsive vs. spontaneous desire.
Categorised by domain: Connection, Desire, Intimacy, Self-Worth, Attachment, Fatherhood. One new insight per day from six world-leading researchers.
Travel for work? Toggle to Away mode and the checklist switches to a long-distance protocol — voice notes, check-ins, surprises. Because she's solo parenting and every message matters.
“She doesn’t need you to be perfect. She needs you to keep showing up.”
At the price of one date night, you get a system that improves every date night after.
The average couple waits six years after noticing a problem before doing anything about it. You don't have to be average.
Get the system — £39